12 Most Important Lessons We Learned from Dad

12 Most Important Lessons We Learned from Dad

Every year, the third Sunday of the month of June is a day dedicated to our fathers. While nothing can ever be better than a mother’s love, as the dads of the world, we like to think that our love too is second to none.

The memories that we all have are different, whether tossing the ball in the yard, wrestling in the family room, or a father’s unconditional excitement when attending his daughter’s ballerina recital. Beyond those active memories, Dads aspire to teach life’s most important lessons to their children.

Here, are the lessons, the founders of 12 Most learned from our fathers:

Daniel Newman

My father taught me that you appreciate the things you have much more when you earn them (A lesson in hard work and commitment)

Sean McGinnis

My dad taught me the value of humor and the effect it can have on others. He is one of nicest, most likeable men I’ve ever met. His sense of humor and positive spirit are contagious. He taught me that in the end, people like to do business with people they LIKE. Thanks dad! 

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In honor of Dad and his desire to make us the best people we can be, we asked a group of 12 Most contributors to provide us with the MOST important life lesson that they learned from “Dear Old Dad”. We’ve shared these below.

1. Gabriella O’Rourke

My Dad taught me that there’s no such word as Can’t. I really never understood this message as a child (I mean, isn’t ‘Can’t’ in the dictionary?) but now I know its about the choices you make to either do, or not do. I definitely live by these words now! Happy Father’s Day!

2. Mark Babbitt

Always be the hardest working member of your team – physically and mentally. Be the first one at work, and the last to leave. More important, be the first to compliment and the last to judge.

3. Jeannie Walters

Dad taught me life is full of gray areas. Don’t be too quick to judge and don’t make assumptions! Thanks, Dad!

4. Parissa Behnia

My dad grew up without his dad and in very poor circumstances. His ability to succeed despite the very ugly odds and retire as a department chair of a major hospital shows me that nothing is ever impossible.

5. Tim McDonald

My dad taught me your profession or title didn’t matter. How you held yourself and treated others would be how you would be judged by others. I was fortunate enough to have him tell me how proud he was of how all 3 of his kids turned out as adults before he passed. I think that is a testament to the person he was.

6. Sam Fiorella

Have dinner. Have dinner in a mansion, in a garage or on the streets, but always have dinner with your family and you’ll be the richest man in the world.

7. Tobey Deys

My Dad was a funny, quiet Dutchman who was loved by everyone who had the honour to meet him. I miss him but he’s still with me every day. One of the most significant things I learned from him was when he was teaching me how to drive: “Be assertive but always be kind.” He taught me that a smile, a compassionate word, and a helping hand held out would take me places. He was spot on.

8. Chris Westfall

As a former field-goal kicker for a Big 10 football team, my dad taught me some great lessons He told me that all the practice in the world doesn’t amount to much, if you can’t believe in yourself when the pressure is on.

9. Michelle Kay

My father taught me that the only kind of love is unconditional

10. Ted Rubin

My father taught me the value of friendship, at all levels, and how important it is for you to be a friend first without expectation. He was always doing things for our neighbors… cleaning up, fixing things, helping out in any way he could, without expecting anything back in return other than friendship. He was the guy who would pull over, anywhere, and clean up a turned over garbage can and place it back where it belonged… and now I am too.

11. Peggy Fitzpatrick

If you want to dance, you have to pay the fiddler meaning always remember you are responsible for your choices.

12. Michele Price

My Daddy taught me to take the time to do things right. Being an accountant, I remember when I had to file my first tax return and he made me rewrite the entire return carefully, neatly writing my numbers. His lesson was if you want to be taken seriously and not get audited you made sure your return was easy to read and review so it was filed quickly and scrutiny went to the messy returns.

In closing, by Josepf Haslam:

Some families have quirky elements. Ours was funny, bantering, game playing, but little outright affection, and I do not ever remember my Dad telling me he loved me. I know his dad never told him. Then, 11 days after his 48th birthday, my Dad died of lung cancer, from cigarette smoking. I was 25. And failed, that last painful week, to say what I needed to say. I learned a lot from from that and since then. For all of you out there; you do not have to like your Dad, or approve of your Dad to tell your Dad that you love them. Your Dad needs to hear it. We all need to hear it. And on father’s day I’m reminded again of the absolute truth of this. Put aside whatever pain or fear or lack of practice you may have. Just tell your Dad you love them. And if it is too late? Tell your wife, your children, your other family and best friends. You never know when it will be too late, start today.

Happy Father’s Day!

What did you learn from your dad?

Featured image courtesy ofushtey licensed via creative commons.

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Daniel Newman

Daniel Newman is the CEO of United Visual Inc. Parent company to United Visual Systems, United Visual Productions, and United GlobalComm. The family of companies is focused in Visual Communications and Audio Visual Technologies. Newman is also an Adjunct Professor of Management at North Central College. A Chicago native all of his life, Newman is an avid golfer, a fitness fan, and a classically trained pianist.

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pbwconsult
pbwconsult

My dad taught me to dream, dream and you can do it. I tell people all the time, the reason I am as successful as I am, is due largely in part to having grown up in a house with a motivational speaker. After the divorce I announced I was moving in with Dad, we were buddies, I tagged along to all his basement seminars motivating sales people with 'the power of persuasion' When I got in trouble at 9 years old, most kids get their TV or toys taken away... I got to spend my Saturday afternoon watching Zig Zigler VHS tapes, not just watching, doing the exercises and writing a paper after. As a teenager I was walking on hot coals at UC Irvine with a 1000 other people freshly motivated by @tonyrobbins . Thanks Dado .... Great post @12most and @danielnewmanUV

keithprivette
keithprivette

Lessons Tim Privette taught me:

1. Never quit a team until the season is done, you made a promise & a commitment

2. ALWAYS respect woman

3. You do your best and the best will come out

4. Look up to people you respect and ask them many questions!

5. Love your kids with all your heart.

6. Be there for your kids no matter what, but kick em in the ass when they need it.

7. You are responsible for your actions, own it and accept it

8. Be yourself and be true to yourself

9. Manage your damn money!

10. Wait til you have your own house....I am coming over and jumping all over your couch, it's only fair.

11. Have fun and laugh at yourself because you are going to do some stupid shit

12. Love the people around you, which means help when they need help.

Miss you Dad! Tim Privette June 7th 1944 to April 14th 2007

StephRWong
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Since my parents have been divorced since I was three and I always lived with my mom, my dad hasn't been a big part of my life. Yet, he still played a large role in teaching me many great things about life and how to be successful. 1. You never know unless you try. And when you try, try for the best and hardest things, and push yourself. 2. Life is what you make of it, not what school you went to, what job you have, or how many friends you have. 3. When something bad happens, it's not the end of the world. 4. Strive and be professional in all settings and you'll go places.

Thanks for the great post @danielnewmanUV !

~Stephanie

Community Manager Intern at Livefyre

danielnewmanUV
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@StephRWong Hi Stephanie - love your share here at 12most - btw we love the livefyre platform.

We hope that Joe and the gang let you visit and comment regularly.

Best of luck with your internship.

StephRWong
StephRWong

@danielnewmanUV thank you! 12most is definitely on my list of blogs to follow. You'll be seeing me around here more often!

sumnermusolf
sumnermusolf

My father's lessons reach beyond the edge of the galaxy. I've learned from him how to act, how not to act, and how to be me.

He was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer about a month ago now, and his days are more bad than good. So now, the lessons he bestowed upon me - knowingly and unknowingly - are now being reflected in the decisions and mindsets that my siblings and I are taking in this complicated, difficult time.

My father taught me to entrust myself. To survive, to live, to devote, to manifest. To love, to grow, to acknowledge. To be humble. To be confident. To be me.

I am so incredibly and deeply honored that I was able to bear witness to this man.

Thank you, Pop. You won't read this, but you know where I am with this. I can't begin to explain how much your influence resides in me. Thank you, sir. I love you.

Thanks to @danielnewmanUV & @deleted_91832_Sean McGinnis for this avenue to express admiration and devotion.

dabarlow
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Gabriella, my Dad too said "No Such Word As Can't", just isn't in the dictionary! That lesson have taken me far in my life & has given me some terrific experiences! Another lesson is "Don't Let Anyone Tell You That You Can't Do Something Because of Who You Are". He came from a very poor family, was the first in his family to graduate from college, and provided for his family so that we had what we needed.
Josepf, yours brought tears to my eyes and a tightness around my heart! Oh how I can relate to what you say. My Dad passed at a young age of 47 and I don't ever remember him saying that he Loved me. However; as an adult I do know that he did. His actions told me!
Thank you all for all the heart warming examples of lessons from Dads. A outstanding salute to them!

Lisa Gerber
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Beautiful!! My parents are less than perfect. Aren't we all? But I love that we can still thank them for our most important lesson. (Heck, I've even learned a ton from the bad!). My Dad gave me courage and a sense of adventure. He made me curious about the world and encouraged me to take off after college, and head out West. And when I say encourage, I mean he handed me a set of car keys and then made the motion of scissors cutting with is hands (at my graduation). I love him and thank him for it. Because of it, I won't settle for a mediocre life.

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV

@Lisa Gerber What a great story! I think sometimes Dads are given a bad name because we have to give "Tough Love" or allow our birds to flee the nest as it sounds like your dad did. The reality is, there is nothing in the world that gives me a greater sense of pride than watching my children succeed. It is also incredibly hard to watch them fail, but I know deep down that success will never be as sweet for them if we don't let them fall on their face every once in a while.

BTW, we haven't really met yet, but I do look forward to connecting. If you are half as much fun as Gini Dietrich than I anticipate a great connection.

However, only she has the hall pass on the cueball nickname.

Thanks for stopping by and commenting. We really enjoyed putting this together and allowing the world to get to know some of our contributors a bit better!

Lisa Gerber
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Hi, @danielnewmanUV !! I'm way more fun than Gini. (just kidding.)

re: my Dad, I agree - there was some tough love, and a "set me free" kind of thing, but I also think part of it was him wanting to live through me vicariously and watch me do the things he didn't choose to do.

I look forward to connecting with you as well! Nice to meet you here.

heart_path
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What a lovely post. I have a long a list of things I love about my dad, but there are a few things he has always stood for, which defines him (and has shaped me) above all else; 1. Always put God first in your life; 2. Always do your best; 3. Always tell the truth. He taught me what it is to work hard, to live in faith, to live a life of integrity, and to honor and love your family. On this Father's Day, I am incredibly grateful for his continued presence in my life.

ginidietrich
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Wow. @Josepf conclusion made me cry! When I was in eighth grade, I sat on the porch with my best friend and said, "I wish my parents would get divorced so I didn't have to deal with my dad anymore." He was strict, he was mean, and he was impatient. They ended up splitting up when I was 18 and it took me nearly 20 years to forgive him. Last summer, I spent four days with him, on our bikes, and he's a different man than I grew up with. I realized, just last year, that he did the best he could with what he had. That and I really did get the best of both of my parents. I'm glad he's still here so I can tell him I love him.

thedomesticexec
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Fabulous Post! This should be a blueprint for any dad to follow or person for that matter. Thank you for a heartwarming and inspirational message to make my day!! @danielnewmanUV you really brought the #BOOM . Wishing everyone an amazing and love-filled Father's Day!!

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV

@thedomesticexec This was a team effort - one idea from one insignificant person followed up by more than a dozen wonderful lesson's from some of my closest friends around the world!

lorisica
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I love this post. The contributions from so many just echo the fact that Dads are such an important part of our lives. Whether they are with us or not, they leave a legacy that affects not only our lives, but the lives of those around us. Happy Fathers Day!

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV

@lorisica It is funny how to all of us our dads played an important role, yet in each and every case it was different. A great example of the human condition.

12 Most
12 Most

What do you think? What did you learn from your father? Care to share it with us? Can share either here or in the comments on the blog post!

nsflowergirl
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My dad, at 82, has just taken up boat building. He put in a 'small' garden this year, only 400 sq ft, and is re-roofing his house by himself right now. He couldn't come to dinner for Father's Day today as he has a 'date.' He has re-invented himself several times over his life, and at 65 went to truck driving school. What hasn't he taught me and my 3 brothers!?

The thing I have most used in my career(s) though is: never ask anyone to do something that you wouldn't do yourself. As a leader, a supervisor, a mentor, and an employer this is good advice. People respect someone in the trenches with them the whole way. A 'cruise by' manager is unlikely to get the same results as one who leads by example. Thanks, Dad!

ldiomede
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Thank you all so much for sharing these lovely sentiments and lessons from your dads. They are all so inspiring and touching.

I've watched my father as a child work countless hours in a hot factory and to this day, he's one of the hardest working men I know. It's his determination that keeps me motivated and constantly striving to achieve something bigger. And I see the unbelievable role my husband plays in the lives of my three boys. It's his constant attention, love, sense of humor, encouragement & commitment to them that will shape them forever. The role of a father is immeasurable!

Happy Father's Day to you all!

danielnewmanUV
danielnewmanUV

@ldiomede It sounds like our fathers were similar. My dad did own a business, but it was a trucking company and he worked tirelessly whether it meant driving a truck, repairing a trailer, or keeping the books, to make sure the company and moreover that his family was cared for. That hard work and sense of pride resonated with me when I started a family.

What is really funny is how I resented him for working so much when I was a kid. I didn't understand why he worked so hard. Nevertheless, I am so glad he set the example for me. It set me up with the right values about hard work and commitment to my family.

Thanks as always for stopping by!

danielnewmanUV
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This may be my favorite 12most post yet. So many great ones, but hearing the feedback from so many of my friends and people that I respect about their experiences with their fathers just reiterated to me the diverse backgrounds we all have. Yet, despite this diversity, it pulls us all together and I believe ultimately makes us stronger people

Thank you ALL SO MUCH for bearing your souls for everyone to see.

I hope this post brought some inspiration to our readers.

And finally, everyone, have a wonderful Dads Day!!!

samfiorella
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Thanks for pulling this together @DanNewmanUV! So much attention is put on dead-beat fathers it's great to call out the many that are so amazing and that have shaped the "great dads of today"!! Happy Father's Day!

JohnFeskorn
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My dad taught me not by his words but by his actions. He didn't sit down and share life's lessons with us kids nor did he share his emotions. He worked very hard to provide for his family and that to me showed how he felt about us. He regrets not saying the words but we all know now what his tireless actions were telling us. So what I learned from my dad is his hard work ethic and the work you are doing is to provide stability for your family. But I also learned that my actions may not always speak for themselves; I tell those closest to me what they mean to me everyday. I love my dad and my family and try my best to tell them not only with my actions but also with my words.

AniseSmith
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My Dad is the most amazing man I know. He took on the role as single parent of a 3 month old (me), when he was only 25 years old. He worked as a Philly cop in the worst neighborhoods which taught me a lesson about hard work. He returned to College to get a degree from Temple, which taught me the importance of education. He became a Realtor (and dragged me along) and invested in Real Estate, which taught me about the importance of home ownership, and that Real Estate investments are always SMART. He is a wonderful, compassionate and loving man, which also taught me those important human qualities.

Josepf
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@AniseSmith #thanks Anise, was wondering just how you got so wonderful! Great to hear more of your story.

CaiPalmiter
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Great post,well, my dad taught me three important things in life:1. No matter what, always be thankful of what you have in life,even if it's negative. He always have this strong faith,turning negative into positive. Pray, it works as he always tell us.

2. Learn to say sorry and learn how to forgive as well. 3. Education is the only legacy that parents can give (being in a 3rd world country, we value education so much,because life is difficult back home,it's a belief that it is one's way out of poverty) and we must value it and pass it on to our kids.

OneJillian
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My daddy is still teaching me -- that is today's fact of utmost value. He has an answer for *every* single question I ever ask him, even if it is "figure this one out yourself."

JosephGier
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Im going to tell you what my Dad told me.. I more or less told this to Dan this the other night.

My Dad has told me amny things but the best advice he gave me was this:

" Be Bold and Courageous, because when you when all is said and done, and you look back on your life, you will regret most the the things you dont do far more than the thing that you did do.! "

Happy Fathers Day to us all!

wadvisor
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What could we do without our dads? Some great things mentioned by everyone and I was really touched by Josepf Haslam. My dad taught me to help everyone, never stop giving, and anything is possible if you set your mind to it. He always fought to give us the best life possible (can never thank you enough dad). He fought for young students, family, friends and everyone he touched in an attempt to provide a better life. Happy fathers day to everyone and enjoy this great day with your dads.

mccJustin
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Great Post! My dad taught me - long before search engines existed - that you can change jobs and change your plans, but you can never change your name and your name will follow you around where ever you are so do the right thing and make sure your name stands for something positive. Great advice. Miss my dad, thanks all for sharing your lessons!

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