12 Most Important Ways to Build Relationships and Get #RonR
If you want to continue to reach your market in this social media age, the marketing focus needs to be on building relationships, and metrics need to expand beyond ROI (Return on Investment) to include RonR: Return on Relationship. So how do you build and strengthen relationships with your audience (as a whole, and as individuals) to increase your RonR? Here are 12 ways to do so.
1. Listen
If you want to be heard above the growing social media “noise,” you need to first listen to your consumers so when you do speak, you get it right. What are they saying, what are they feeling, what are their pain points, what solutions do they need?
2. Don’t just listen, but hear
Thanks to social media, brands can gather vast amounts of valuable information about consumer preferences… but to build relationships you need to go well beyond data gathering and actually hear, and react to what your consumers are sharing. True listening requires a willingness to place consumers’ opinions above the brand’s own (usually biased) view of itself, and to even make product/service changes based on that feedback.
3. Know the people in your audience
Short and simple: if you are only focused on the money, you risk completely overlooking the people. Don’t make that mistake! If you don’t know who your people are, you might as well toss your marketing money down the drain.
4. Make it be about THEM
First think about and first address what matters most to your audience. Give them a platform to show you what they need, want, are interested in, and expect. Whatever matters most to them should become what matters most to you!
5. Be consumer oriented (whether that be retail consumers, b to b prospects, or those who consume your personal brand)
We marketers like to think that social media is primarily a set of tools for our marketing purposes, but in reality, social media is also a strong set of tools our consumers use to share and influence opinion about our brand. Our consumers now have “the channel of me.” Consumers’ opinions now create the “reality” of the brand — if enough consumers say negative things about your brand, your brand loses its credibility, and (thankfully) vice versa.
6. Ask “How can I serve you?”
Taking the “ME” mentality one step further, when we are advertising instead of building relationships, we are focused on what our consumers can give us instead of how we can best serve them.
7. Aim for ongoing engagement
Your consumers will recognize in a heartbeat if you are simply trying to get something from them – and they will not stick around. It’s not that you aren’t allowed to want anything from your consumers, it’s that there must be a give to go along with every take. If you truly want to make an impact, aim to always put more energy and attention in your “give” column than in your “take” column. It will pay off. Traditional advertising is going for instant impact and hoping and praying you make an impression: splashy billboards, off-the-wall Super Bowl television ads, eye-catching graphics, even shock factor (images of gore, poverty, nudity, animal cruelty, etc.). While those methods are effective in catching a consumer’s attention, they fall short of retaining that attention. Building relationships is about starting meaningful dialogue and taking the time to thoughtfully and genuinely engage in ongoing conversation. Relationships focus on getting to know your consumer and giving them reasons to stay engaged — not just getting them to react. This needs to be all the time… not simply campaign or initiative based. That is the biggest mistake being made today by marketers and brands… with consumers, and especially with influencers.
Brands tend to fall short on this one because real engagement takes time, attention, and overall effort, but I can assure you that working in a vacuum is one of the biggest mistakes a brand can make! A one-time Tweet, a quick Facebook posting, or an email here and there is an announcement, not engagement. Engagement requires a brand to reach out to consumers by asking questions, offering useful content and solutions to relevant consumer issues, providing useful community forums and feedback venues, etc.
8. Authenticity will set your brand apart from the rest in today’s highly competitive market
True authenticity in marketing requires brands to change their public filters. It used to be that a whitewashed image was the way to get consumers’ notice and buy-in (literally)…but now, if brands filter out any and all slight imperfections, consumers quickly get wary. If the only product/service reviews you allow the public to hear are about how amazing your product/service is, you quickly lose authenticity points.
9. “LESS fabrication, MORE facilitation”
In other words, don’t waste resources whitewashing your brand. Put your resources instead into giving Advocates
LESS fabrication, MORE facilitation = a boost to your RonR.
10. In today’s market, REAL trumps PERFECT because real is what creates TRUST
Give consumers ongoing chances to interact with you and your brand, so they can see that you always tell the truth. Don’t waste your valuable marketing time making things up because your consumers *will* sense that you are not telling the truth. Do your products and services have all perfect recommendations, as your brand claims? Maybe – but unlikely. 100% on-time delivery? Maybe – but unlikely.
Of course you don’t need to announce your errors or be proud of performance inconsistencies, but if consumers bring them up publicly, consider NOT filtering those conversations out of the media. Speak directly to any issues consumers have with your brand, and let your problem-solving conversations be public. These authentic conversations are the ones that build ongoing relationships – the ones that create Brand Advocates.
11. Integrate Customer Service with your social presence
Use social media for instant and ongoing engagement with your customers. Pay attention to them and address their needs early, often and publicly. Make sure your social team and customer service team are on the same page and communicate regularly and easily.
12. Focus on the relationship before the sale
When a brand adopts the marketing philosophy that it is all about relationships, they automatically begin paying more attention to the consumer needs and preferences to learn who the consumers really are. Consumers who feel valued by a brand will in turn assign value to the brand by buying the product/service and passing recommendations on to their networks. The sale then becomes a natural part of the RonR instead of a “hard sell” effort.
Relationships ARE the new currency – honor them, invest in them, and start measuring your RonR!
Featured image courtesy of practicalowl licensed via creative commons.
Nice points, thanks for writing. LOVE your point about authenticity. Being yourself can mean understanding that for some, a business issue is tightly linked to a personal one.
"Make it all about them" - I think this is the easiest way to build relationships by making others feel warm. It shows that we are not just about marketing our own product/service but are looking for a genuine long term relationship.
Terrific Post! Congrats. I love #10. Be real and authentic. Honesty, Integrity, Trust. Hardly new concepts, but so often overlooked these days. Getting back to basics serves everyone well. Thanks!
Terrific post! Listen, hear, understand, empathize with the consumer's pain! I think #5 is more true in today's world than ever before, e.g. blogging, scam/complaint sites, Facebook, MySpace, twitter. More negative feedback is done than positive. Thank You!
Thanks so much Michelle thedomesticexec ... I know you understand that you have to give to get :-)
Ted, your insight is an inspiration to us all! What makes it even better is that you practice what you preach and continue to give, give , give. The hope is that many others will focus on #6! What a great ( and probably a lot more productive) place this world would be if everyone would thought more about what they could give to others instead of what would benefit themselves in any area of their lives. I salute your Awesomeness TedRubin and watch your #140conf video whenever I need a little motivation!!
Thank you all for the feedback, support and most of all your interest. I truly believe what I write and speak about, passion makes it come naturally. Check out my presentation at #140conf about Return on Relationship... http://bit.ly/mqvUa5
Most importantly fel free to reach out anytime... tedrubin or tedrubin@gmail.com
Simple. Focused. Authentic. All are necessary elements for assessing #RoR. All too frequently, there is a HUGE gap between listening and really HEARING what's being said. When one professes to be "social," that means taking the time and making the effort to not only hear what's said but taking appropriate action as follow up and proof that the other has been heard. Customers, friends, family, employees, employers ... Everyone is touched and everyone benefits!
Sean McGinnis LaurieBick TedRubin Thanks for your kind words, Sean :-) I think everyone falls victim to impatient communication. Perhaps the reason is because our brains are moving at the speed of light while our mouths can only move at the speed of sound. I find that to allow one to catch up with the other, it pays to take a long, deep breath (NOT visible to your conversation partner) and refocus. Frankly, I've even stopped someone and let them know that I've not heard something. Once I apologized, I asked them to repeat what I didn't hear and proceeded to listen more intently from that point on. It just seems more respectful of the speaker to do that than faking my attention and understanding
LaurieBick Sean McGinnis TedRubin Sean - perhaps Laurie should write the follow up?????
This is a fantastic post! Ted. Thanks for sharing the wisdom.
I'm a huge believer in the power of simply taking the time to listen closely to clients, friends, loved ones, you name it. This is tricky for me to decide as every point here resonates from my perspective - #1 and #2 (taking action) is my new/old favorite. Smiles. Do you hear me?
Sean McGinnis MeghanMBiro Is there a mute button on this thing LOL????









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