12 Most Significant Choices YOU make in LIFE

12 Most Significant Choices YOU make in LIFE

Over the years I have come to believe that life is eventually about choices. And the choices you make shape your day, shape your views, shape your experiences, shape your thoughts and shape your life…

There are some life choices over which you have no control or which others will make for you — like when and where you are born, the family you are born to, your life during childhood, the school you went to, etc.

Beyond that, there are several other important choices that you make in life. In this post, I have articulated the significant choices which have the potential to transform you… your life.

1. Choice to learn

Learning is a choice which you make consciously or unconsciously. This could be through formal college education (graduation, post-graduation, etc.) or self-learning through reading and books, observation, online tutorials, meaningful discussions, pursuit of hobbies, human interactions, personal experiences, reflections, self-realizations, etc. In the long run, the importance you personally associate with learning and how disciplined you are in your learning efforts can potentially transform your life.

2. Choices in and of relationships

The closeness or distances you chose to maintain with family (immediate and beyond) affects your life. In addition, the friends you choose to make and how you choose to nurture these bonds over a period of time impacts your life. More importantly, the choice of your life partner has a significant bearing on how your life will eventually turn out. And lastly, the choice of how you build and nurture other relationships in your personal and professional life makes a difference.

3. Choice on the importance you associate with your personal health

Your overall health is a function of many thing. The key determinants being the diet you consume and the nature of exercise you ensure on a regular basis. Of course, the pre-requisite is that you need to be aware about these two aspects on your everyday life and knowledgeable on how they affect your life. Beyond this, you need to ensure that you invest the required time and effort to eat wisely and exercise regularly.

4. Choice of the place you reside

The place you live in affects every dimension of your life, whether or not you acknowledge it. And place includes every dimension of your immediate environment — encompassing the milieu at home, to the exact location in terms of geographic coordinates; the latitude and longitude — to the weather, to the people living in your vicinity, to the community life, to the availability of resources, etc.

All these affect your daily routine, your lifestyle, your social networks, your productivity, your outlook to life, your opinions, your views, your judgments, your energy, your creativity, your thoughts…

5. Choice with respect to your personal finances

Your choices on the importance you give to personal finance will eventually determine the quality of your life. Beginning from how much time and effort you put in to understanding personal finances, to how much financial planning you do, to how much you earn, to how much you save, to how much you invest and most importantly to how frequently to review your finances and make the required course corrections.

6. Choice to bear children & how you decide to raise them

Children mark the beginning of a new phase in your life — one which changes almost every dimension of your life. And once you have children, you need to make choices in their upbringing — both minor and major. And all the choices you make for them will eventually determine how they grow and evolve! After all, children of today are the grown-ups of tomorrow. How you nurture your children will ultimately reflect in what they make of themselves and the mark they leave in the world. And this will be part of your legacy.

7. Choice on your life priorities

At some time in the journey of life, you have to be clear and decide on your life priorities and also rank them in an ascending order. There’s no right or wrong here — it’s just a personal choice. It’s vital to be cognizant that for every priority you choose, there are implications, both big and small, both positive and negative, both in how they will affect your life today and several years from now.

8. Choice of your vocation and organization

The vocation you choose affects many dimensions of your life — from how your daily routine is, to how happy you are, to much you earn, to the kind of people you interact with, to the kind of impact you can make in your sphere of influence. Based on the choice of your vocation, you also make a choice on the kind of organization that you work for — be it self-employed or as an employee.

9. Choice of how you value time — both yours and others

Time is one of the most valuable personal assets for any individual. And the respect, importance and value you associate with your time and others time will reflect in how you conduct yourself, how you interact with others and how others will respond to you.

10. Choice on your spiritual journey

One of the most important choices which you make in life is connected to your spiritual awareness, growth and journey. And what’s significant is how aware you are of this journey, the priority you associate with it and the personal commitment you make to progress and advance in this journey.

11. Choice of how you value yourself

This choice of how you value yourself can create a metamorphosis in your life. And this one single choice has the potential to change your acuity of yourself, your self-confidence, your dreams, your goals, your successes and also others perceptions of you. It is one of the most noteworthy and transformational choices anyone can make in life.

12. Choice not to choose

Last and most importantly, the choice not to choose the above or any other key aspect of your life is again a choice that has the potential to transform your life…

Ending words of wisdom — make your choices wisely today!

 

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Nischala Murthy Kaushik

http://nischalamurthy.wordpress.com/

Nischala currently works at Wipro. She has more than a decade of corporate experience which includes progressively responsible lines in Business Strategy, Business Solutions & Innovation, Branding & Marketing, Consulting, Business Development and Project Delivery of IT applications for several customers across the globe. Nischala is an active blogger. She blogs at VERVE : The Quintessence of my Life and Nischala's Space, Thoughts & Expressions - Both of which have been added to the List of Best Indian Blogs. In addition, she writes guest posts at sites like ProBlogger , FamousBloggers , 12Most.com , The Change Blog , PaulWriter & MindBlogs . For the full list of her guest posts, refer to the My Guest Posts Section on her blog. Nischala has completed her MBA from Indian Institute of Management, Bangalore (IIMB), one of the premier Business schools in India. She takes pride in being a Mother, Philosopher, Writer, Scholar & Guru of Life for Life and most importantly, the Chief Happiness Officer of her LIFE!!! You can follow her on Twitter @nimu9

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14 comments
joyfulgail
joyfulgail

I love this,Really enjoy reading it.

samfiorella
samfiorella

Glad I chose to read this post!

RE - the choice to bear children.

Based on the rate of abused, neglected and hungry children in the world, I wonder if people really choose to bear children? I'm sensitive to this subject so maybe I'm jaded but I fear too many people don't choose to have children, they simply deal with the results of their selfish sexual acts.

What I do know for sure is that children DON'T CHOOSE to be born. Everyone should remember this before they CHOOSE to neglect or abuse children brought into this world by their acts. Consequences for CHOOSING to neglect or abuse children should be the heaviest penalties society can impose.

sharongreenthal
sharongreenthal

#2 is especially meaningful to me. Keeping only positive people in my life is now a priority. My time is too precious to waste it with people who don't bring something positive or provocative into my world.

JBTWEETNOTHINGS
JBTWEETNOTHINGS

And the beauty of this is that none of it is static. You can also choose to make changes to any of the above should your first choice turn out not to be your best choice. I've made several changes over the years in a few of these categories and they've taken me to a place where I feel happy. The key is knowing that you CAN and SHOULD make changes if the situation calls for it.

AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin

#4 - Moving has transformed my outlook and my life.

WineEveryday
WineEveryday

Nischala, Great list!

Choices matter, life isn't a crap shoot. This should be suggested reading at various stages in life ~ High School ~ College Grad ~ Spouse Hunting Season ~and so on to retirement. Cheers!

TylerKendall
TylerKendall

Thank you for these great suggestions. It really does help to put and keep things in perspective when you read things in this form. I've been working on making some big changes in my life and I find I'm sometimes overwhelmed by everything that has to be done. A friend gave me Cheryl Maloney's book Simple Steps for Real Life that has helped me to keep things in perspective and help keep me focused on the bigger goals rather than the stumbling blocks. Might be a good companion book to your suggestions. Best of luck and thank you!

dbvickery
dbvickery

We've all made most of these choices, Nischala. In general, I am pretty happy with mine (well, ecstatic actually). I think your choices in #2 and #5 can really shape the rest of the choices on the list.

I found who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, we chose to be fiscally responsible, then we enjoyed the rest of the choices together knowing we had as much stability as we could expect.

And I am a HUGE proponent of the choice to learn. I strongly favor the college education. I know there are exceptions, but I know to many case studies personally who can track their struggles back to that one choice. And hint - just because you get the framed piece of paper doesn't mean the learning stops! And you still respect everyone regardless of whether they have that piece of paper or not.

My best early mentors *did not* have degrees.

nischala.murthy
nischala.murthy

@samfiorella Thanks Sam for choosing to read this post :) And also for choosing to leave a comment... You bring up very thought provoking points.. I still believe that bearing children is a choice made .. The point is that many people don't realize the full implications of the consequence of their choices.... Esp. what being a parent means - Looking back at my post in the context of being a parent, I can say that I have made choices in #1,#2,#3,#5,#7, #8,#9,#11 after I became a mom.. And to be honest, I don't know how they will pan out 30 years from now.. But here's what I do know - I am willing to take complete responsibility for these choices I've made - I believe that's the KEY!

AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin

@samfiorella Yes Sam!! I think you should have to get a license to have kids and I'm a LIBERAL.

And animals; there are so many in shelters WHY pay for AKC?? Makes my blood boil.

nischala.murthy
nischala.murthy

@sharongreenthal Sharon - The minute you make it a priority, your life changes.. Being associated with positive people in the real or virtual world can have a phenomenal impact on your every day.. I also have started consciously working on it.. Time is too precious to lose on negativity...

nischala.murthy
nischala.murthy

@JBTWEETNOTHINGS Excellent observation! They are all as fluid as you choose them to be :).. I should add #13 - The choice to CHANGE any of the 12 choices ... And you are so right.. It is about your happiness... Over the years I have come to believe that we are all the CHIEF HAPPINESS OFFICER's OF OUR LIFE :).. Good that your happy - End of day .. that's important

nischala.murthy
nischala.murthy

Good to hear this Amy. What struck me was the choice of your word "TRANSFORMED".. And I agree with you that this can actually be a transformational change

nischala.murthy
nischala.murthy

@WineEveryday Thanks... I agree with you.. In fact I myself go through this in my head when I am at any cross-roads of life... It brings amazing clarity in perspective.. Just knowing that its your choice can actually be empowering.. Cheers!

nischala.murthy
nischala.murthy

Hi - Thanks for stopping by & leaving a comment.. What I've learnt is it does not help to get overwhelmed.. Its your life & your choices .. Have faith in yourself and your choices... The best will happen.. Good Luck

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