12 Most Convincing Reasons for Having Kids Later in Life
At the end of the day, we all live the life we live and there are no definitive rights or wrongs. But we certainly have our own thoughts and opinions on why or how we have done things in our lives.
Looking back now, I am incredibly thankful I had no children at a young age. I feel that I would have messed the kid up and therefore that would have messed me up.
My wife Annie, is 40, and I am 35; we’ve made the conscious decision to try and have one child now. After getting pregnant in November 2011, which was followed by a miscarriage, we are now pregnant again. Regardless of the outcome, Annie and I are very interested in “parenting,” “mentoring,” and “education” as a whole and understand the importance and value that these things bring to our society… and the future.
All that being said, below are some of the positive reasons we came up with (through many conversations) about why having a child this late in the game can be a good thing.
1. You can get all the partying out of your system before your kid comes along
2. You’ve been around the block and learned some good lessons about life and how things work (wisdom)
3. You’ve spent time building a career and have moved down your path a ways
4. You’ve learned the merit of patience and tolerance
5. You’ve learned more about priorities, what deserves stressing out about and what doesn’t (don’t stress the small stuff)
6. You’re more open minded (hopefully!)
7. You understand that having a child doesn’t end your life — you’ve established your lifestyle and are comfortable living it
8. You’re more established in your friendships and your community
9. Your marital relationship is typically more seasoned and stronger
10. You’re better off financially
11. You have more self-confidence
12. You’ve seen what works and what doesn’t, since most of your friends and family have already had kids
If you feel I left something out, I’d love to hear it. And if you feel one of the reasons listed was bogus, I’d appreciate your thoughts on that too!
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