12 Most Simple Ways For Busy Couples To Create More Quality Time

12 Most Simple Ways For Busy Couples To Create More Quality Time

A bane of many relationships today is the challenge partners face in finding quality time to spend together. Juggling career, business, family and social responsibilities can leave you feeling there just isn’t enough time in the day to reconnect with your partner.

If not enough time is spent reconnecting, a couple can grow emotionally distant. With this distance comes the inevitable death of passion and intimacy.

However, this does not have to be your story. Many couples are defying the odds by using creative, yet simple strategies to carve out the precious time necessary for them to reconnect daily — and so can you!

1. Move the television out of the bedroom

At first this may seem drastic, but watching television is a subtle yet voracious time consumer. How often have you sat down with the intention of watching just a few minutes of TV, only to find hours have passed by? By removing the TV completely, you are reserving your bedroom for three main activities: conversation, sex and sleep.

2. Turn off the phone when dining together

I can’t count the number of times I have dined out and have noticed couples intently caressing… their phones! Dining together is a fantastic opportunity to bask in each other’s presence. So resolve today to put your relationship on what I call a “digital diet.” When dining together, shut off the phones and look intently into your partner’s eyes instead!

3. Read to each other in bed

Reading to each other before you retire each night is a very simple, yet profoundly intimate way to end your day. Also, reading together can be a highly educational, entertaining, or erotic activity depending on your selected reading material(s).

4. Get a couple’s massage

A couples massage at your local day spa, hotel or resort is a great way to enjoy the benefits of this time honored therapy together. Besides the massage, many spas include additional amenities such as fireplaces, steam showers, pedicures, and lounge chairs. Couples massages are a great way to spend time together, as well as get life’s stressors rubbed away. To find out the costs, amenities, and schedules available in your area, call your local spa or hotel for more information. You may also visit Spafinder.com http://www.spafinder.com online.

5. Schedule regular date nights

In order to create more quality time together, you must make it a top priority. A great way to accomplish this is to make regular date nights a tradition. Whether it’s once a week or twice a month, determine a frequency that makes sense for your schedules. Many couples use date night as a way to explore their fantasies, such as role playing. Others opt to just enjoy a nice meal with a quiet evening at home. With date night, you can be as simple or extravagant as you wish. The point is, you will be together in an intimate setting of your choosing.

6. Plan an impromptu weekend getaway

On a whim, whisk your partner off for a carefree weekend getaway. The key here to be spontaneous. Of course if you have children and/or pets, you will need to make arrangements for a trusted caregiver to watch them. Rest assured, the effort will be worth it! Many locales have charming bed and breakfast inns with package deals specifically for a romantic weekend retreat.

7. Meet each other for lunch

Call your partner and offer to either come home for lunch, or meet them at the office. It’s a nice, thoughtful way to let your mate know you’re thinking of them, as well as providing a nice distraction from the day’s tedium.

8. Work out together

Choose an activity you both will enjoy, like walking or bicycling, and commit to work out together. Not only will you be spending time together, but you will be getting healthier as well. Now that is a win-win situation!

9. Take a class

Taking a class together can be fun as well as educational. The sky is the limit as far as subject choices are concerned. Select a class that piques both of your interests. There are courses for cooking, art, dance, photography, etc. In fact, many local colleges and universities offer non-credit classes for free, or at very reasonable rates.

10. Volunteer

Is there a cause you both feel strongly about? Volunteer as a couple to help support the mission of your favorite charity. Not only will you be spending time together in service of a noble purpose, but you will also be helping to make a real difference.

11. Hire a cleaning service

Imagine coming home to a house where all of the routine cleaning and dusting has already been done! How much time would this save you each day? Each week? The good news is, hiring a maid is no longer just a perk of the very rich. Many home cleaning companies such as The Maids.com, ofter various services with rates more affordable than you may think.

12. Use the lock on your bedroom door

Parents of young children, this tip is meant especially for you! Fear of your children barging in during intimate moments can drain every sexual impulse out of you. So instead of sacrificing your sex life, lock your door instead. Children are never too young to learn respect for privacy. Rest assured, they will be desiring their own privacy before long. Also, if there is an emergency, a locked door won’t prevent you from being able to come to their aid. Locking your door frequently will not only relieve your anxiety of a situation every parent dreads, but also reinforce the idea of your bedroom being a safe haven for intimacy.

Remember, despite increasingly busy schedules, it is possible to create the quality time together you deserve. It just may require the shifting of priorities, as well as some out-of-the-box thinking.

How have you and your significant other handled this challenge? What has worked for you? Please share your experience with the community by commenting below!

Featured image courtesy of mozzercork licensed via Creative Commons.


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Terez Williamson

http://SmartlySmitten.blogspot.com

Terez is a writer who has written about life, love, relationships, and so much in between. His latest project is the ebook "Pinterest For Beginners," an essential guide to the basics of Pinterest. You can find him sharing more of his musings on Facebook, Twitter, and Google Plus.

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20 comments
terez07
terez07

@Salcedohugo @angelamaiers Your Retweets are very much appreciated. Have a great day!

Salcedohugo
Salcedohugo

@terez07 Thanks for sharing! Great points!

newdaynewlesson
newdaynewlesson like.author.displayName 1 Like

I won't put the tv in the room and some of my best talking time with hubby is during walks.

 

And I am so looking for someone who knows how to clean!

terez07
terez07

 @newdaynewlesson I truly think people underestimate how relaxing and therapeutic a good long walk can be. It's especially a great way for couples to get a few minutes alone, away from life's distractions. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

BruceSallan
BruceSallan like.author.displayName 1 Like

Before I leave, what is "a cleaning service?"

BruceSallan
BruceSallan like.author.displayName 1 Like

GREAT stuff Terez. I soooooooooo agree with #1 and did NOT have a TV in "Our" bedroom for many years. I foolishly succumbed. Great tips here - really. I will read again and comment some more, but my wife is calling me now!

dbvickery
dbvickery like.author.displayName 1 Like

Wow, Terez...you nailed so many good ideas here. I've been lucky in that my wife has been a stay-at-home mom for 19 years, and I've telecommuted for about 14 years. We get coffee together a couple times per day (I wrote a 12 Most post about it), sometimes have lunch together, play tennis/workout together, and we frequently end the night with a glass of wine. Throw in a weekly commitment for either a night out or a night in over wine/chocolate, and life is great. July 1st will be our 23rd anniversary, and I love her more each day ;)

terez07
terez07 like.author.displayName 1 Like

 @dbvickery  Congratulations on 22 soon-to-be 23 happy years together!  By the way, thanks for mentioning sharing chocolate!  How could I have missed THAT one?!  (Hi, my name is Terez, and I'm a chocoholic ... )  :-)  Glad you liked the post.  Have a great weekend!

terez07
terez07

@reneedobbs @MatthewLiberty So glad you enjoyed the article+ thanks for the retweets!

reneedobbs
reneedobbs

@terez07 You are welcome! Have a great evening. @MatthewLiberty

terez07
terez07

So glad you enjoyed the post Michelle, and special kudos to you for  standing your ground about no television in the bedroom! It is possible to  spend quality time together, but couples must make it a top priority in the relationship. As the old saying goes "where there is a will, there is a way!"

annedreshfield
annedreshfield like.author.displayName 1 Like

Great tips, Terez. A pet peeve of mine is #2. Everyone my age (college-aged!) leaves their phones on the table during dinners. Uh...excuse me? Put it in your pocket and show some respect, particularly if you're with your partner or on a date! 

AdamBritten
AdamBritten like.author.displayName like.author.displayName 2 Like

 @annedreshfield Yes! I'm glad we agree about the phone-on-the-table thing. I get so annoyed when my friends do this. I'll admit that I am just as glued to my phone as many people my age (if not more, since my work & schoolwork both deal with social media) but when I am at dinner I keep my phone in my pocket, and it stays there, no matter how many times it buzzes.

terez07
terez07

 @AdamBritten  @annedreshfield Adam, I think that's great you have made dinnertime one of your "disconnect zones!"  We need to create more of these  in our lives to maintain a healthy balance. What other times during the day  do you feel could benefit from  this?

terez07
terez07 like.author.displayName 1 Like

 @annedreshfield Anne, I couldn't agree more!   When a close friend of mine  began dating her boyfriend, she asked him to turn off his iphone until their meal was over.  He quickly got the point. Personally, I also think it's just poor manners. Glad you enjoyed the post!

Michelle_Mazur
Michelle_Mazur like.author.displayName 1 Like

Great post! #1 was a big one for me when my partner and I moved in together. He really wanted a TV in the bedroom and I told him the bedroom was for two things: sleeping and well you can figure out the other thing. Great suggestions! Hiring a house cleaner is an amazing one as well!

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