12 Most Indispensable Pieces of Life Advice

12 Most Indispensable Pieces of Life Advice

Some days, you just wish life came with a manual.

We say that experience is the answer to the lessons we learn. That being said, many people tend to repeat the same lessons throughout their lives. The names and places may change, but the same challenges remain.

The truth is that similar themes play out in all of our lives although they’re disguised as uniquely crafted situations. The lessons start early and keep coming for the duration. Like in school, you repeat the lessons until you pass them.

Here’s a list of a few life shortcuts. The sooner you accept them, the better off you will be — and by you, I mean me.

1. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes

We’re conditioned to think that mistakes are to be avoided at all costs. As long as you learn from them, you have no reason to feel shame. Mistakes are nothing more than recalibration tools.

2. Heartbreak won’t kill you

From the brokenhearted teen to the adult divorcee, matters of the heart can feel like the end of the world. Relationships are teaching tools like anything else and when the lesson is no longer relevant, it’s over. Time will heal you if you allow for it. Like my best friend says, “I was here before you. I’ll be here after you.”

3. Voice your truths

You have a unique perspective that makes you who you are. As long as you state your truths with respect, you have a right to express yourself. There is value in anything you say coming from your heart.

4. People are the same at their cores

We come from different cultures, speak different languages, and hold different beliefs. Despite our diversity, we all have fears, we all have hopes, and we all need love. Sappy, but powerfully true.

5. Most things won’t matter in 365 days

The things that consume us from day to day are usually pretty insignificant in the grand scheme of things. Most of them won’t matter in 30 days if not 24 hours. Don’t get caught up in the trivial.

6. Think for yourself

You have a brain encased in your own skull for a reason. Use it. If you’re going to go with the crowd, make sure it’s because you made a conscious choice and one that makes sense to you.

7. Compare yourself to no one

All you can see is what people choose to show you. The people you think you envy have problems too. The only comparison you can make is to how you’ve progressed on your own journey. Stay in your lane.

8. Create your own happiness

If you wait on happiness to be granted to you, you will always be at the mercy of something else. Don’t depend on anyone or any thing to give it to you. Your attitude towards life is what will bring it to you.

9. Trust your instinct

Your sixth sense is a gift. The more you learn to trust it, the stronger it gets. Learn the difference between intuition and impulse, as they will lead you in opposite directions.

10. Change is often a good thing

The earlier you can learn to embrace change, the more dynamic and fulfilling your life will probably be. Change is scary but it often brings opportunities to expand your world.

11. Believe in the grandness of your dreams

If you don’t, who will? And don’t let them go.

12. Know that you are more than enough

When you operate with a certain amount of knowing, other pieces will miraculously fall into place. Handle what you can and let the universe work out the rest of the details. You have all you need.

Those are just twelve of the common life lessons I know I’ve experienced or observed. Which apply to you? What other universal lessons do you have to share?

Featured image courtesy of Earl-Wilkerson licensed via Creative Commons.

Emelia Sam


Dr. F. Emelia Sam is a writer, speaker, and oral surgeon in the Washington, DC area. She is the author of I Haven't Found Myself but I'm Still Looking and How to Create the Life You Really Want. Most importantly, she abhors raisins and is a fierce advocate of Red Velvet.

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Excellent post, Emelia! Every point resounds with me! I never mind making mistakes because from them I grow. To me, that is exciting! I live in truth, lead with love, I know what matters, and I'm following my dreams. I'm so glad to be sharing my journey with wonderful friends like you!


#7 is so important. You cannot be happy if you are living in someone else's shadow. Your journey belongs to you alone. 


Great post, Emelia. I always highlight and copy key phrases when I want to comment, and this was one of those excellent posts where I found myself doing that multiple times. Here were a few of my favorites:

- The lessons start early and keep coming for the duration. Like in school, you repeat the lessons until you pass them.

- Mistakes are nothing more than recalibration tools.

- Don’t get caught up in the trivial (I'm terrible when it comes to sports sometimes...it's a game, folks).


I like the 9th one most! I always followed my instincts and it never let me down!


I love these tips, Emelia. So simple and yet so powerful! Thanks for sharing them.